Tips for Conversations for Change

“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”  

– Haruki Murakami


  • Be open to “listening” to their story, history and experiences

  • Be patient, respectful, thoughtful and empathic

  • Try to listen for and hear their concerns, be kind & gentle with yourself and with them

  • Try not to convince them of your point of view, use compassion

  • Share what and why your values lead you to your opinion

  • Explain why it is important to you and the Country that you vote as you do

  • Point out where and when you hear comments that represent common ground with each other’s perspectives

  • Let them know when you learn something from them that is helpful

  • Acknowledge that you appreciate the discussion, their time, openness and that it’s important even to agree to disagreement yet with respect

  • Take on such phone calls, or in-person conversations, in small increments and use healthy self-care strategies and post conversation check-ins with like-minded friends

– Diane Bridegman, Ph.D., 2018

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